HOW PARENTS CAN TEACH ABOUT FAILURES TO THEIR CHILDREN

Parents always strive to protect their children from failure. Parents need to realize that failure is good and make their children feel better. Children need to be taught that failure is the key to success.
 

Dr. Sharmila
Failure is a part of life. Teaching kids to fail and bounce back makes them stronger and more ready to face life’s challenges. When kids fear failing, they’re at risk for anxiety and meltdowns when things go wrong. Most children are afraid to fail because they are not taught about the benefits of it. As a child you also see your parents try to shield you from failing because they want to protect us. If we realize that failure is good and is a step in the right direction. We need to teach children about failure being a necessary component of success – and not the other way around. In Fact, their brains grow and develop when a failure occurs. As parents, we must ensure our children understand failure is only the ‘first attempt in learning’, and provide them with tools to reflect, review and rise again. We must share our own stories with them and tell them it is okay to fail and experience disappointing moments but strive harder to achieve their goals.

Stepping in as a parent
You can’t shield your child from every little setback, but there are times when she’ll need your help.


If failing would cause him tremendous humiliation-
When your child forgets their costume for the school play, don’t teach them a lesson in responsibility. Bring it to him.

 If your child is in danger- Just because their friends are advanced swimmers doesn’t mean you should let your beginner go into the deep end.

 If they’re being bullied- One snide remark at the playground isn’t cause for alarm, but intervene if you see continuous teasing or excluding that visibly upsets your child.

 

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Failure is an integral part of life. Facing and recovering from failures will make your teenage children stronger and more capable of facing life’s challenges. But, failures by children are not so easily accepted.
Children’s brains, when they are accustomed to accepting failure, really mature when faced with failure. They will be prepared for it even if they happen to face successive failures. They will not break. Parents need to tell their children that failure is the first step toward success. Parents should not hesitate to share their experiences with their children if needed. It is important to understand that failure is okay and that efforts should not be stopped for fear of failure. We need to guide children not only to experience moments of success, but also to experience frustrating moments and work harder to achieve goals through those experiences. “

What can you do as a parent?
You can not bear every moment of failure that happens in your child’s life. Beyond that they will need your help for some time. They are …

When failure causes the greatest embarrassment to your child …
Suppose your child forgets the special attire for attending a school play. They don’t have to be taking life lessons at that place. It’s okay to take the dress and add it. 

Ashley – Sharmila
Ashley
Failing is never easy, it creates a lot of pressure in the minds of teenagers that leads to anxiety and general unease in us. I remember this one time in school where I had failed my math exam. I was shocked and angry at myself. “How could I FAIL an exam? My family is going to be so disappointed in me…” These were some of the thoughts going on in my head. So much so that I didn’t even appreciate myself for doing well in all my other subjects. I came back home very disappointed and ashamed, when my mom asked me what was wrong, I slowly handed her my report card and looked away.

She took a look at it and came hugged me. I was puzzled to say the least. I asked her why she was hugging me and she told me “Congrats Ashile, you’ve done pretty well in your exams”

I immediately retaliate and tell her “But did you not see that I scored badly in Maths?”

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She calmly replied and said “Now we know that’s an area you need to focus on and work harder towards, so are you willing to do that?”

I smiled and said, “Yes of course but how are you so patient about this?”

That’s when my mom opened up and told me about a time in her school life where she had not done all that well in her math exam and that it wasn’t the end of the world. She also, like me, recognized that she needed more help in that area and got the help she needed.

Having this conversation with my mother helped me feel more light and calm about the entire situation.

– Happy Parenting