Parents can answer this question as ‘raising teenage children’ and children as ‘being teenage children’. The truth is … that temporary trip for teenage children and parents was full of challenges and fun
There are a lot of disagreements, heartaches, pains and losses faced by both the parties in this journey where parents and adolescents go through hundreds of questions and hundreds of expectations. When there is a good relationship between the parents and the children, both parties can talk and resolve the issues that are bothering them. But in many families, many things go unnoticed.
According to a statistic, India has the highest number of teenage suicides in South Asia. There are many parents here who do not even know that their children have a problem that is more life threatening than not being able to live or not being able to live.
The relationship between teenagers and their parents is not going to be without problems and challenges. But the lesson for parents and children is to learn how to deal with them and how to prevent them from becoming problematic and the relationship becoming too serious.
The relationship between teenagers and their parents is not going to be without problems and challenges. But the lesson for parents and children is to learn how to deal with them and how to prevent them from exploding into a problem and causing the relationship to escalate.
“We are no exception. As a mother who does not understand the feelings of a teenage daughter, I and Ashley have a lot of problems as a son who does not understand the feelings of the mother. We still meet today. The moment we both realized at the same time that only honest, expressive conversation could solve these problems, we moved from being mother-daughter to being friends. Until then the mindset of the two of us who had always been criticizing the opponent at the thought that what I was doing was right also changed. We are going to share those experiences with you here.
In each issue, we will look at some of the important issues that are considered to be a problem in homes with teenage children. Those who read this series will change the mindset of ‘Neeya … Nana …’ and the maturity of ‘You and I’ will be born. Parents should let their children enjoy the golden age of life to the fullest and let their children not make it a time of struggle for their parents …
Why is communication necessary?
Good communication can improve the parent-child relationship. That’s bad conversation, it’s broken. Good communication is fundamental to creating a healthy, positive culture in a family. Anyone have a problem … can talk and solve. Yet, why do teenage children and parents stumble so much when it comes to communication?
Teenage children need guidance in life. Yet when they look for it in their parents they are afraid that they will judge themselves. A different kind of reluctance for parents who want to give guidance to their children. Reluctance to listen to what we have to say … they are proud of what their friends say. The result ..? Healthy communication between the two is missing.
“Sleep over (the teenage culture of going to friends’ houses and staying overnight) is a pearl where my mother has to bear a different rule. It’s almost unknown until teens. When I was a teenager, my mother’s condition was severe. I’m glad I missed all of that fun when I saw so many of my friends on social media sharing their sleep over experiences paragraph by paragraph. I even thought, in the name of protective parent she is doing too much.
One day I asked my mother if she could not bear it. I was surprised that I expected that talk to end in a fight anyway. Talk to you soon and keep up the good content. Let’s say he went to a friend’s house like this when he was a teenager and was trapped in a safe house and had no one to call for help and then escaped unscathed. Let’s say, “Bring your friends to our house … Enjoy.” I respect that moment above the mother who shared her personal thing that respected me. Maybe if I had not spoken to my mother, my mother would have been so rude …
Dr. Sharmila …
“I did not say ‘no’ until Ashley was a child. But as they grow older, they begin to question why and for what I say. No matter how much the child grows up, he is still a child in the eyes of the parents. That is why his parents could not accept his question. When I realized my daughter was childless and growing up, I stumbled upon my attitude of giving her advice.
I can not tell you now what Poochandi told her when she was a child. She needs to be made to understand the reality and at the same time feel her boundaries. I only stopped putting the rules and started asking for their side of the argument. Awesome people talked a lot and we ended up. Single Madara also made me understand her need to get to know her friends paragraph by paragraph. I allowed her friends (Only Girls) to come and stay in the house where only women live. Until then, we had only been complaining about each other, and then we started to understand the problems and think of solutions together. ”
– Let’s reduce the gap …
Five things for mom and dad …
- Listen to the children … Do not react or say solutions. The main expectation of teenage children is that parents should be prepared to listen to what they have to say.
- Do not talk crossly when children talk about a subject. Pause your speech temporarily.
- If you think your children need to talk to you without hiding anything, watch what they say without judging. Do not comment.
- Understand what children are saying. Respect their feelings.
- Make sure you are with them at all times. It can be expressed as a small embrace, a kiss of love. That should give children the confidence that they can talk to their parents about anything.